My dad is an older father like Jeremy Kyle – I never questioned it
As society changes, there's been a rise in older parents and couples waiting to have children until they are in their 40s, and even 50s.
One such example is Jeremy Kyle, who revealed earlier this week that his wife Victoria, who he married in 2021, is pregnant with a baby girl and he is set to become a father for the sixth time, aged 58.
It's their second child together after they welcomed their first baby, Oliver, together in 2020. The couple have faced mixed reactions, with some thinking Jeremy is selfish to be having another child in his late 50s because he might not be around to see them grow up.
The television host, who previously overcame testicular cancer, told the Sun: "Yes, baby number six is incoming, I’m catching BoJo up, to be honest!
“Vic says I need to set up a side business by bottling it because I’m 58 and I’ve only got one testicle, but everyone knows that anyway.
“It’s a baby girl, she’s due early next year, and we’re over the moon as our family is complete.”
Someone that knows all about having an older dad is Judith Zerdin, 47, a freelance copywriter and translator from Surrey.
She tells OK! that she has a great relationship with her father Dan, 97, and that she and her brother, who is four years older than her, were born when their dad was a bit older as he'd originally been unsure about having kids.
"Eventually my mum Hilary managed to persuade him with my brother and then apparently it wasn't so difficult second time round," Judith laughs.
Judith has happy memories of her childhood, in which she and her brother used to stir the Christmas pudding and often go on walks with their father and dog.
Her father is a huge Christmas fan and loves all the festivities. He would read The Snowman to his children every Christmas Eve – a tradition which has continued as he now reads it to his grandchildren Sam, 13, and Helena, seven.
Although Judith never questioned or queried her dad being older, he did retire when she was 10, which she remembered thinking was out of the ordinary.
She says: "It was slightly unusual because my friends' parents were still working. But I don't remember wishing anything was different. The only thing is that he won't see my kids growing up. That's a shame, but that's just how it is really."
When she was at secondary school and as she made her way into adulthood, no one ever made comments on her parents being older.
"My parents always said I didn't need to broadcast it and it never came up in conversation. They both always looked younger than they were.
"My dad went grey in his 20s so he didn't really look any different from anyone else's dad who might have been 10 years younger or more. I was always told by my parents that I didn't need to mention it, so I didn't."
She tells us that a nice thing about an older dad is that he has lots of stories to share with her and her children about the Blitz, and that he's writing a book about his life.
Judith says: "He remembers pre-war London and he's got a wealth of stories such as his family camping downstairs in the dining room during the Blitz.
"They had his relatives from East London staying with them too. It was three families living together and sleeping in one room.
Judith went on to have two children with her husband Mauricio, 56, and says that he ended up being an older dad too as she gave birth to Helena when he was 50.
She laughs: "History repeated itself – but it wasn't quite the same. He found fatherhood more tiring and didn't have as much energy as if he'd been 10 or 20 years younger, but he wasn't too bothered by it."
Now, Judith's parents are 97 and 88 and still living independently. She tells us they're a close family and she sees them every few weeks.
She says: "At 97, my dad doesn't have the same energy he had five years ago. He doesn't walk very much, he still drives but he sleeps more and is a bit more frail. We still have a very good relationship, he gets on well with the kids."
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